This is something you’ll want to do a little personal work with, first. Talk out your feelings with a trusted friend or a therapist. Figure out what it is that you’re afraid of losing – because jealousy is usually a secondary emotion masking fear.

Then, figure out how you can soothe yourself. Are there things you would like to hear from your husband to make you feel better? If so, you can now tell him how you feel, and what would make you feel better. Often husbands want to “fix” situations, but don’t know how. If you can tell him the problem, and what would make you feel better, he will probably be thrilled to do what it takes to help make it better.

If you’re feeling undesirable, ask him if he can compliment you more often and make you feel like you’re the most important woman in his life more often than usual. Admit that you’re feeling a little insecure with all this new-ness in your life and his support will definitely help you get over this “hump”.

You can go so far as to ask him to get you flowers or little gifts or to take you out for a romantic dinner date.

When he does, be sure to show your appreciation. Your child is not the only one who will respond to behavior modification!

If you haven’t gotten back into a physical regime, now is the time to start back to exercise class – not because you need to lose any weight, but because exercise does release endorphins in your body that will make you feel better and fight any depression. And getting in shape does prevent accidents, as your body morphs back into its old shape – or a new shape – in its good old time, and your center of gravity in your body changes as your hips begin to narrow again, and your stomach shrinks.

Eat right. A nutritional diet will make you feel better. Coffee and diuretics are not breakfast. Half a yogurt and a candy bar are not lunch. You are what you eat, and you will feel better and not let small stuff bother you if you eat salads and protein and fruit and drink lots of water.